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The day of the funeral

on December 3, 2011

We just brought Sandra home from the days activities and she’s practically asleep already.funeral

It was a beautiful service and I would like to share some of the details with those who were unable to attend:

Processional

Musical SelectionIn Remembrance – by NFUMC Choir (Pam & Glen’s Church Choir)

Welcome and Prayer – Rev. Terry Fleming

Scripture Reading – Rev. Terry Fleming

Tributes;

Michael Walker – Brother

Pamella and Glenroy Walker – Mother and Father

Albert Kong – Friend

Warren Borders – Friend

Dwayne O’Mard – Cousin

Sandra Walker – Wife

Introduction to Special Music – Sandra Walker

Musical SelectionOh How He Loves Us – by 12Stone Choir (Sandra & Glen’s church choir)

Message – Rev. Brenda Westmoreland

Introduction to Special Music – Sandra Walker

Closing Prayer – Rev. Brenda Westmoreland

Musical SelectionOne Thing Remains – by 12Stone Choir

Recessional

The music was amazing, the words of both Reverends most comforting and the tributes by family and friends were heartfelt and powerful. I don’t have the benefit of having transcripts from all the tributes, but I can share Sandra’s (which her mother and Aunt Cathy helped her compose from things she had said and written)-

When I woke up this morning I was thinking about Marvin Gaye and Tami Terrell’s song “You’re All I Need.”  Glen used to sing this song to me, not very well but he sang, “I took one look at you and it was plain to see you were my destiny.  We have the right foundation and with the love and determination you are all I need.”

 A message I sent to a friend about how to love someone was just sent back to me as a reminder of my love for Glen and how it had touched his heart.  My message said, “Hey, see you are going through some things in your love journey.  Have no idea what is going on but just wanted to say that my husband has taught me so much about how to really love someone and I have grown so much from that. Biggest thing is that love is not something that just happens to you.  Attraction happens, ecstasy happens, but love, love is a choice; a choice to stay, a choice to care, a choice to change in ways that make you uncomfortable but ultimately make you better.  Love challenges you to exceed your limitations and to accept your partner’s limitations.  Love is not lazy, it is work.  And when you both are willing to put in the work, the reward is more than you can ever imagine.”

I am thankful that God put Glen into my life.  I am eternally thankful for Glen and how without trying he taught me to be a better person. He taught me to understand and relate to people, he taught me how to love unconditionally and how to laugh and enjoy life.  I was never happier than when he and I were together.  I have never laughed as hard as we did or loved someone so much.  He was the love of my life.  I didn’t have to work to love him, it was effortless and a kind of joy I had never experienced before.

 When I was moving to Atlanta I wanted to know where a good area to live would be so being a MySpace user I entered the area code in a search. Glen’s picture was in the center of the top row of results and I was drawn to his smile. We wrote each other for seven months before I moved here never talking about dating but in October Glen decided to ask me out and we went on our first date. From the start Glen understood my hurts and joys.  After all of the pain and disappointments we both had been through, we really understood each other.  Everything that happened between us was meant to be like the text he sent me after three weeks that said “If this is what love feels like, I never want it to end.”  We had never talked about being in love but from that point on it was obvious to us that we were meant for each other.  In April after 6 months of dating Glen proposed to me in front of his parents, my parents , Aunt Margot and Alana.  After I accepted he then asked Alana to be a part of his family.  From the very beginning, Glen instinctively loved and took care of Alana.  He was quick to accept responsibility as Daddy.  When Glen said us he meant the three of us!  On July fifth 2008 we married and to our delight we were pregnant with Cameron in September.  Our family was meant to be!

Glen’s smile drew people to him.  When anyone met Glen, they wanted to be around him.  I know that all of you can testify to that.  As my Uncle put it after he met him this summer, within minutes Glen became your best friend or your most favorite relative!  Always and anytime he talked about life he made the people around him feel encouraged.  Being around Glen made you realize life was worth it, and that there was always good on the way if you stayed positive.  This was one of his many abilities and blessings.  When you talked to him about something important to you and your life he listened until he understood. We put God first in our relationship and I am positive that is why we thrived and got each other the way we did. 

 Glen, thank you for being you and never backing down, your children have an amazing role model to remember and I will help them become like you any chance I can.  I love you and I’m sad I don’t get to share the small moments with you anymore but I am excited to teach people about you and how to love like you.  You babe have made a difference in my life that I am so grateful for and not a moment will pass where I don’t think of you.  Thank you for loving me and teaching me how to love.  I will spend the rest of my life being more like you and raising our kids to become children of love and understanding.  I am blessed and have you to thank for that.  I was blessed to have been given the opportunity to be your wife.  I love you with everything I have.  Thank you for loving me; my selfless, loving Glen.

 Thank you all for being here today and celebrating the life of Glen.  I have been so overwhelmed by your love and support for me and our entire family!

As many of you know Glen and I found true happiness at 12 Stone Church, it was going there on Sundays that kept us grounded. The music at 12 Stone was such an integral part of our spiritual relationship and Glen fully supported my choice to join the choir there. Today a group from that choir is here to sing, “Oh How He Loves Us.”

It was difficult at times for Sandra and all those who spoke to deliver their very special messages in honor of Glen but they did a remarkable job.

Pallbearers Michael Walker, Dwayne O’Mard, Derrick White, Drew Gilbreath, Larry Smith, Warren Borders, Albert Kong and Tom Meeker escorted Glen’s casket to the waiting hearse and we began our long and somber ride to the cemetery.

After the burial there was a reception/luncheon attended by several hundred of Sandra and Glen’s family and friends, many of whom had to travel great distances.

All in all, a very touching, respectful and moving tribute to our Glen.

-dm


10 responses to “The day of the funeral

  1. Beth Granger says:

    It was indeed a beautiful service. I think all who were there we’re truly touched by the words and music. I felt my faith was validated by all the messages.

  2. Tonia says:

    I was thankful to have been a part (12Stone Choir)of the wonderful tribute to Glen, while I did not know him long…..it didn’t take much time to realize that Glen was a wonderful and loving man. I continue to pray for Sandra’s healing and the road ahead, and for the rest of the family….Love & Prayers to you all

  3. Valerie says:

    Thank you for sharing some of the details of the service. I wish I could have been there. Just reading Sandra’s tribute made me cry. All the love and support from his family and friends is a testament to Glen’s own nature… My thoughts and prayers with the family always…

  4. Gillian Todd says:

    It sounds like it was a beautiful celebration of Glen’s life. I wish I could have know him. May God’s blessings be with Sandra, her children and family as they continue to heal.

  5. Lynne Barnhart says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us. It was very difficult to not be there so I know how much I appreciate some details from the service as I’m sure do many others. You are all in my heart constantly.

  6. Courtney Rinehart says:

    Thank you so much for writing down Sandra’s words. I was really touched by them when she spoke, and in absolute awe of her grace and courage, as well as Michael and Glen’s parents. The service was absolutely beautiful and healing. I broke into tears pulling in to the parking lot, seeing the vast sea of cars, and understanding how special Glen was to so many. He really touched many lives in his time here on earth.
    Will continue Praying for you all. RIP Glen.

  7. Char Firlik says:

    Beautiful and inspiring. May Glen’s spirit to love and understand be with us all. Love, J&C

  8. Peggy DePersia says:

    I am deeply touched by this remembrance and the relationship that was so steady, supportive and loving. Glenn’s legacy of love is his gift to his family and friends and will always be cherished. What a wondrous gift.

  9. That’s a beautiful and touching tribute.

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